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The Total Transformation, a la James Lehman
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Okay, Pained Parents Everywhere. Y'all keep finding me and emailing regarding one tiny comment I made regarding Total Transformation. I feel your pain. Really, y'all, I do. A kid is going nuts? I'm there with ya. Thinking of extreme action? Me too. It's ok. Ask away. Email me (there's a thing to the left, just click on it), and we'll swap our parenting sob stories, and then i'll convince you to buy the Total Transformation Thing. But email me first if you want. It's ok. We are in the same sad, stinkin' little boat on this one, so we might as well introduce ourselves and chat awhile.

(Updated 4/14/06 to add: please see this post as well. I still very much believe in this program, and am finding it very useful for our younger kids. We originally bought it for help with our 11 yr old, but it's sort of the Instruction Book for Parenting. I consider it a must for any parent. Really. It's that good.)

Updated 1/10/07 to add: please read this post.

Latest update HERE.


Your Comments

Karin Said:

I didn't see what you had commented on the program. But if you like it, and I respect your opinion, I may just give it a shot. We took classes on "Love and Logic" years ago, and that's helped here, too.

on Mar 15, 2006 3:30:52 AM
Stacey Said:

You must have talked about this before I started reading your blog. Sounds like a great program for parents who need some extra help with their kids!

on Mar 15, 2006 7:44:18 AM
HolyMama! Said:

actually, it was a comment on another blog, but people are googling it, and it comes up, then they trace me back to here!

on Mar 15, 2006 8:58:51 AM
GiBee Said:

Can I just say ... it bothers me every time I see the following on your title bar... "sorta shallow Christian mom."

I don't think you're shallow at all, and I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit!

I love coming to your blog, and I love your writing style -- it's awesome. And shallow? Naaahhh. I think you get pretty deep!

on Mar 15, 2006 9:46:41 AM
mandy Said:

Gotta agree with gibee there chica.

on Mar 15, 2006 9:53:47 AM
flipflop Said:

No clue what you're talkin' 'bout.

on Mar 15, 2006 10:32:34 AM
MusicalMom Said:

lol--I love the "sorta shallow" part because it means you don't take yourself too seriously.

I love reading your blog!

on Mar 15, 2006 12:54:08 PM
GiBee Said:

Holymama -- Oh, no!!! Just ran across your comment about being a moron -- no you're not!!! Since we're having a tough time with comments and sites, I thought I'd leave this on your blog so you're sure to find it... And your poor readers will have NO idea what I'm talking about ... hehehehe!

Sorry about the confusion, Holymama! ... No worries! I'm still hanging around, talking my head of... hardly making any sense whatsoever... blog-a-blog-blog-blog! Stop by any time. Leave a comment -- or not. In the mean time, I'm still loving your deep, profound, and thought provoking sight!

on Mar 15, 2006 2:35:09 PM
Janet Said:

I understand the sorta part. In fact, in a way, I think that might even make you more of a Christian. At least you have self awareness.:)

on Mar 15, 2006 6:45:05 PM
Leilani Said:

Let me tell you, I have been there! I was franticly looking for my keys in a restaurant once. "Is that not them right there in your hand?" says my sis-in-law. Talk about embarassing...

LOL on the purse light. Looks like those very tacky lights shining out from beneath some gangsta mobiles.

on Mar 15, 2006 9:17:46 PM
Leilani Said:

It seems I've commented on the wrong entry. Oops! You know where I mean to be!

on Mar 15, 2006 9:18:52 PM
moe Said:

That's not shallow, it's frivolous maybe but, If you are really shallow you don't know life goes deeper than poop, shoes and hair styles.

You go deep. But it's fun to splash on the shallow shore once in a while!

on Mar 16, 2006 9:37:27 AM
Sheena Said:

Well, I don't think you're shallow! I just think you're humble about your faith and don't have to go blaring it out there to prove you are faithful. It means you're very personal with God. And very secure and down to earth!Just how I like it! Oh and thanks for commenting on my site. I wish I could e-mail you but my computer won't automatically put your address in the server when I try! Maybe if you e-mail me on mine it'll work out? After your comment on the fires I'm wondering how close we live to each other! Cool! Have a happy day!

on Mar 16, 2006 11:59:06 AM
Karla Said:

The missing wallet story could have been written by me, verbatim. I am famous for racing around the house in hysterics because I've "lost" something, that I later find in my hand, on my head, wedged in the crack of my butt, etc. Okay, maybe not the butt.

But maybe, for all you know.

on Mar 20, 2006 7:03:31 PM
Laura Lee Said:

Hi, have you used The Total Transformation? Is it informative? Useful? I will go ahead and confess... I just ordered it. So I am hoping so... but would like any feedback. Thanks, Have a great day!

on Mar 29, 2006 12:11:57 AM
jack Said:

Hi , I came across this searching for info on total transformation program . I would appreciate any and all inf. regarding this as I am having a really hard time with my nine year old .Thanks Jack

on Sep 27, 2006 7:11:48 AM
randy Said:

I am thinking about ordering The Total Transformation for my 7 yr old who seems to have a problem with impulsive behavior. Do you think that this program is designed to help with this problem.

on Dec 1, 2006 2:49:15 PM
Jen Said:

I have just heard about Total Transformation and when I googled it I found this page. Could you share your experience on here or in an email. I am thinking of trying it for my 13 yr old.

on Dec 1, 2006 3:16:00 PM
jean Said:

I have just heard about Total Transformation. I t looks like it would help with a 6yr boy diagnosed with ADHD. The books just are not cutting it. Could you share your experience on here or in an email. I am thinking of trying it.

on Dec 11, 2006 5:36:44 PM
Nancy Said:

I have been thinking of buying the Total Transformation package (boy do I need it!), but the price is quite high. I even looked on Ebay, but they get bid up pretty high there, too. Is there anywere else I could borrow or rent a set?

on Dec 13, 2006 7:58:20 PM
Dat Bald Guy Said:

I'm thinking of geting The Total Transformation package for my son and his wife for their 6 year old. He is willful and punishment doesn't phase him. I was concerned about the author and his world view. From the comments I see here from what I assume is a christian world view group, I guess I don't have to worry. It would help to see a negative comment to provide prospective though.

on Dec 18, 2006 3:50:41 PM

I'm glad you are talking about your struggle with your daughter. I think it will help others (and me!) even if our parenting worries are not quite as extreme. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Merry Christmas!!!

on Dec 25, 2006 8:25:04 PM
sam armer Said:

Okay. I don't know much about posting blogs...more use to emails. But I'm glad I found yours. I was watching an info-mercial about the obviously popular Transformation Program. I was ready to order because I'm a therapist as well and I work with a lot of kids like the one he talks about. I'm rather bothered because I can't tell how much it really cost. It looks like a monthly enrollment. I just want the dvds and workbook. I'll have to call during working hours. I like to learn but am leary of info-mercials. So...what do you know abou this. I see you recommend it but I'm curious about what you said to get some of the above blogs. I'm a Christian therapist so I'm really interested in your true feelings about the program...pros and cons. Could you email me at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx and fill me in before I make a decision about this. Congratulations on having so many people apparently appreciate your opinions. I'd like to know more. Thanks. Sandra

on Jan 10, 2007 2:10:52 AM
M. Peterson Said:

I would like your input on the Total Transformation program. It cost about $300.00 so before I invest that kind of money I would like to know what you think of the program as well as other people have commented about it.
I just kind of fell into your website. Has anyone actually used the program and found it was worth the $300 plus dollars?
Thanks, Mary

on Jan 23, 2007 7:51:27 AM
Randy Said:

Well...we purchased the total transformation this week. We have listened to chapter one. Some of the remarks Mr. Leaman makes sounds like he knows us personally (Kinda scary actually). I'm not sure how this whole thing will turn out but it sure looks promising. I wasn't sure what to expect with this program, but only one chapter into it, it has given me a different perspective as to what the cause of some of the problems we face. It seems that we have already found some useful tips on how to handle certian situations differently and it has made a difference.I'll keep you posted

on Jan 26, 2007 6:24:12 PM