Okay, Pained Parents Everywhere. Y'all keep finding me and emailing regarding one tiny comment I made regarding Total Transformation. I feel your pain. Really, y'all, I do. A kid is going nuts? I'm there with ya. Thinking of extreme action? Me too. It's ok. Ask away. Email me (there's a thing to the left, just click on it), and we'll swap our parenting sob stories, and then i'll convince you to buy the Total Transformation Thing. But email me first if you want. It's ok. We are in the same sad, stinkin' little boat on this one, so we might as well introduce ourselves and chat awhile.
(Updated 4/14/06 to add: please see this post as well. I still very much believe in this program, and am finding it very useful for our younger kids. We originally bought it for help with our 11 yr old, but it's sort of the Instruction Book for Parenting. I consider it a must for any parent. Really. It's that good.)
Updated 1/10/07 to add: please read this post.
Your Comments
Can I just say ... it bothers me every time I see the following on your title bar... "sorta shallow Christian mom."
I don't think you're shallow at all, and I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit!
I love coming to your blog, and I love your writing style -- it's awesome. And shallow? Naaahhh. I think you get pretty deep!
Holymama -- Oh, no!!! Just ran across your comment about being a moron -- no you're not!!! Since we're having a tough time with comments and sites, I thought I'd leave this on your blog so you're sure to find it... And your poor readers will have NO idea what I'm talking about ... hehehehe!
Sorry about the confusion, Holymama! ... No worries! I'm still hanging around, talking my head of... hardly making any sense whatsoever... blog-a-blog-blog-blog! Stop by any time. Leave a comment -- or not. In the mean time, I'm still loving your deep, profound, and thought provoking sight!
Let me tell you, I have been there! I was franticly looking for my keys in a restaurant once. "Is that not them right there in your hand?" says my sis-in-law. Talk about embarassing...
LOL on the purse light. Looks like those very tacky lights shining out from beneath some gangsta mobiles.
Well, I don't think you're shallow! I just think you're humble about your faith and don't have to go blaring it out there to prove you are faithful. It means you're very personal with God. And very secure and down to earth!Just how I like it! Oh and thanks for commenting on my site. I wish I could e-mail you but my computer won't automatically put your address in the server when I try! Maybe if you e-mail me on mine it'll work out? After your comment on the fires I'm wondering how close we live to each other! Cool! Have a happy day!
The missing wallet story could have been written by me, verbatim. I am famous for racing around the house in hysterics because I've "lost" something, that I later find in my hand, on my head, wedged in the crack of my butt, etc. Okay, maybe not the butt.
But maybe, for all you know.
I'm thinking of geting The Total Transformation package for my son and his wife for their 6 year old. He is willful and punishment doesn't phase him. I was concerned about the author and his world view. From the comments I see here from what I assume is a christian world view group, I guess I don't have to worry. It would help to see a negative comment to provide prospective though.
Okay. I don't know much about posting blogs...more use to emails. But I'm glad I found yours. I was watching an info-mercial about the obviously popular Transformation Program. I was ready to order because I'm a therapist as well and I work with a lot of kids like the one he talks about. I'm rather bothered because I can't tell how much it really cost. It looks like a monthly enrollment. I just want the dvds and workbook. I'll have to call during working hours. I like to learn but am leary of info-mercials. So...what do you know abou this. I see you recommend it but I'm curious about what you said to get some of the above blogs. I'm a Christian therapist so I'm really interested in your true feelings about the program...pros and cons. Could you email me at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx and fill me in before I make a decision about this. Congratulations on having so many people apparently appreciate your opinions. I'd like to know more. Thanks. Sandra
I would like your input on the Total Transformation program. It cost about $300.00 so before I invest that kind of money I would like to know what you think of the program as well as other people have commented about it.
I just kind of fell into your website. Has anyone actually used the program and found it was worth the $300 plus dollars?
Thanks, Mary
Well...we purchased the total transformation this week. We have listened to chapter one. Some of the remarks Mr. Leaman makes sounds like he knows us personally (Kinda scary actually). I'm not sure how this whole thing will turn out but it sure looks promising. I wasn't sure what to expect with this program, but only one chapter into it, it has given me a different perspective as to what the cause of some of the problems we face. It seems that we have already found some useful tips on how to handle certian situations differently and it has made a difference.I'll keep you posted
I am debating purchasing Total Transformation. I keep hearing all these wonderful things about it, but none of them are truly personal. The cost is pretty large for my budget but I am willing to spend millions to get my household in God's way. What makes this program so special? They only give you 30 days for the money back offer, so is it possible to make REAL progress in that time? I would also like to know if the parental support line is worth it. I figured I would try it for at least the first month for the one dollar. Again that brings me back to the question of rather the program can have REAL action within the first month so I would know for a fact if I needed to stay with the parent support. I guess that basically does it. If I think of anything else I will write. Thanks for the answers. Nikki!
Hey, I just purchased the Total Transformation for my 5 yr old. She is either ADHD or just out of control and has been for 3 yrs. I have only listened to the Jump Start part but it had great advise and insight. I believe it looks very promising and will let you know if it helps with her. By the way I saw a post that stated the program is the same price on ebay as on the phone. I paid $300 for mine and I see it's going for anywhere from $175 to $250 on ebay right now. So it's possible to get it for half or 1/3 off. It even has the money back guarantee on ebay although I got a 60 day guarantee with mine. Will let you know how it turns out.
PJ
I have to admit that we paid in the neighborhood of $400 for the Total Transformation, we are about three chapters into it now, and all I can say is..."what a difference". My son is actually doing good in school and behaving well. We as parents feel more in control now. I am sold on the program and glad we spent the money. Even if we dont get anymore out of the program (which I find hard to believe we wont) it was worth the money.
I am not sure what this program is, or if it can benefit. But from what I have researched via the internet, this seems to be a good thing. I am curious as to what this program is? Is there some secret that is finally revealed? I have a 14 yr old step son, who is just perfect, I have a 13 year old son who lives with his Mom in another state (at times tends to talk back, and school is a social gathering for him, meaning, he isn’t doing too hot in school), and my current wife and I have a 4 year old son (who I admit we coddle). I would like to share this program with my ex who has primary custody of our 13 year old son as well. Bottom line is, do you ALL recommend this, and why? Can this program help regardless of age i.e...? 14, 13, and 4 years of age? Thanks in advance to all who reply.
Help! We have 18 year old senior with extreme ADHD for the last 8 years also on med.s for epilepsy. We have twin 16 boys who pick up some of this behavior. Just found out we can take the 18 year old off the epilepsy med.s these meds have muddied the water, they have caused a flattening of his personality, it has helped with the hyperness...changes are scarry but so is spending $300. We also have a daughter, 12, who has not been diagnosed with anything officially but seems to be getting some help from Prozac...part of her problems are anxiety...which is reasonable considering her little brother has spent the last 7 years in and out of the hospital fighting for his life due to a life-threatening blood disorder that destroyed his kidneys...the bottom line is we are extremely busy...my husband is skeptical we will have enough time to implement enouph changes to make this worth-while.(we do home dialysis and frequent blood pressures and medicines & home school the seven year old). I keep thinking if some of these extreme behaviors were under better control we would have more time not less...so the question is can we do this as well as people with a little less on their plate?
Hi, would the total transformation work on a 16 year old. She is a basically and morally a good kid, she just has no use for school work. If you give her an assignment in class, it gets done, you give her work to bring home and it likely not gets done.
Having been through this for 5 years, the answer is not in myself communicating with teachers, it is not in grounding, spanking or any other type of stand off (do it or else) techniques.
So, any feedback is appreciated.
A frustrated dad in Texas.
We adopted two girls, one at age seven and one at age six. They are both wonderful children, but their former experiences taught them that they needed to take care of themselves. Needless to say, that causes a bit of defiant acting out when they are asked to conform to family, school, and society rules. After about a year of frustration with our older girl, we got the Total Transformation program. It gave us so much insight into how our daughter views the world and how to deal with her behaviors. She has made a lot of changes in those behaviors that we attribute to the things we learned and the new actions we began to take with her. When our second daughter came to us, we experienced a lot fewer problems, because we already knew what to expect. We go back and listen to the CD's every six months to a year just to review and pick up on suggestions that can help us to continue to help our daughters grow into responsible adults. We strongly recommend the program for anyone who has a defiant or willful child.
Are the techniques in Total Transformation for older children? I have a 3-1/2 yr. old grand child exhibiting willful, unacceptable behavior; but it seems hard to "reach" her with regard to discipline/rules/expected codes of conduct. In other words, she says "No" a lot or just plain tunes us out when reprimanded. Time out, little talks, etc. just produce "I'm sorry's". Would TT help us?
Thank you. E
I'm considering buying The Total Transformation program. We have a 7 year old that is spinning out of control. His anger is devastating our household, which is effecting my mental state and my marriage. We've been using the 1-2-3 Magic program for 3 years, but I think we need a change. My son had a diagnosis of ODD when he was 4, but I'm not sure if that is the right fit for him anymore. Meanwhile, he is in the special education process through our school district.
Helpful opinions are encouraged.
Thank You,
Renee
I started doing research tonight after a serious meltdown. Normally I manage to keep my cool, but I actually screamed at the top of my lungs tonight trying to drown out my 13 year old. I've asked God for patience and now I am getting plenty of moments in which to be patient in, but my patience just isn't there. I'd like to try the program. I see lots of comments asking for how teens/parents have faired on this program. Please let me know. $300 isn't too much to spend if the program works, but if it doesn't......
I didn't see what you had commented on the program. But if you like it, and I respect your opinion, I may just give it a shot. We took classes on "Love and Logic" years ago, and that's helped here, too.